We have all heard about how it takes a village to raise a child.
Teaching our children, all of us would agree, is the most important thing we can do for them, for our families, for our community and our world.
We have schools to help us with this delicate task.
While in class a few months ago, my son was struck by another student with an open hand, completely out of the blue. The strike was so hard that six hours later, when he came home, I saw a red and swollen face.
To this day, I do not know who this student is, and neither my son nor I know the consequences he faced as a result of his actions.
I pleaded with both the principal and the superintendent to arrange a meeting, so that my son, myself, the other student and their guardian(s) might know each other better.
My thought was that after this traumatic event I could show my son some good could come of it.
My idea was not even a possibility, however, as I was flatly told this was impossible due to privacy issues.
Privacy issues…
How can we even begin to solve problems with violence and bullying in school under these conditions?
My son’s painful experience presented an opportunity. I saw what could be fashioned carefully, thoughtfully, a knowing between two students who didn’t, and between two families, strangers, brought together to heal wounds.
This work of mediation is not for the faint of heart. It is messy and scary, but if done with much preparation, is a way for communities (schools) to really shine!
My son sees how hard it is to effect change, he also sees I fight for what I believe. He knows I believe in him.
To that family out there who I probably will never know, I wish we could have shared our stories. I hope you have peace in your life, and I wish you the very best.
Shawna Willis
Grand Marais
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